By David Joel Miller, MS, Licensed Therapist & Licensed Counselor.
Are you getting in your own way?
Creating the life you want takes work. Whatever your goals and those goals should reflect your values, it can be difficult getting things done. A successful life does not need to be all about money, though having the funds available will allow you to accomplish more. With all the hard work you put in it is important to not do things that undermine your own success
Regardless of whether your life plan includes helping others, being a great artist or athlete, having good children, a financial goal or some other accomplishment, reaching those aims takes effort. Make sure you’re not putting roadblocks in your own success path.
With all that needs to be done to create the life you want, you do not want to be doing things that undermine your progress. Many people are unconsciously engaging in thoughts and behaviors that make reaching their desired outcomes that much harder. Take a look at the list below and see if any of these items apply to you. How many of these goal interfering things are you doing?
Saying it can’t be done.
If you say you can’t do something, if you say it can’t be done, you have prevented that outcome from ever happening. Positive self-talk can help motivate you to reach your goals. Negative self-talk is your own mind getting in the way of you accomplishing things. Make it a habit of approaching your tasks with a positive frame of mind. Positive affirmations set you up for success. Negative affirmations tell your mind you don’t really believe in yourself.
Waiting for the right time.
There is no right time hiding off in the future for following your dreams. Every day is today and today is the only possible time to begin to work on yourself. Accomplishing great things requires putting in the work. Successful people are skilled at what they do. Developing that success requires a great deal of practice and patience.
Looking for someone to blame.
Focusing on others, what they should do and shouldn’t do, does not get you moving. You are the one who controls this instance. You may have limited choices over some things, but blaming others avoids focusing on the things you do have control over. People who fail have lots of people to blame. People who succeeded in reaching their goals take personal responsibility for their progress.
Saying you don’t have the time.
We all have the same amount of time each week as every other inhabitant of planet earth. You get 168 hours this week. Use this time wisely because once this week is gone it will never come again. Do not put off taking the actions today that will create your tomorrows. Every day life happens. Don’t expect suddenly to have an open period in your life when you have nothing to do other than work on your success.
Your background is preventing you.
People from any possible background have accomplished great things. Then there are those who appear to have had all the possible advantages and still, their life went nowhere. Other people struggle with great adversity and still reach their goals. No matter where you started or what should have been, many things are possible.
Don’t spend your time focusing on the things that can’t be done. Look for those things that are possible, that move you forward in a positive direction. Take the life you have had so far and use that to push you forward to create the best possible future life.
Staying connected with David Joel Miller
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Bumps on the Road of Life. Whether you struggle with anxiety, depression, low motivation, or addiction, you can recover. Bumps on the Road of Life is the story of how people get off track and how to get your life out of the ditch.
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