Discovering Happiness

By David Joel Miller.

The search for Happiness.

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Of the thousand goals, you might have in life, finding happiness sums up that one thing most people are looking for. You might label it love or contentment, success or achievement but whatever you call it we all appear to have the hope if we can just find that one elusive thing we are looking for we will finally be happy.

As a professional counselor and therapist, I like to think that basically what I do involves being in the happy life business. I try to help people create a happy life.

What a happy life means to you and what it might mean to me are probably quite different things. The hardest part of helping people find happiness is being able to not know what they should do to find their happiness and still participating in the journey to help them find that happiness.

Cultivating that “not knowing” attitude rather than imposing our version of happiness on others takes practice. Daily I have to think that I know very little about this person and what will make them happy.  I need to create a safe place for them to explore that landscape and find what happiness would be for them.

Generally, I know the landscape of happiness. I have found some things that make me happy, but the journey of discovery continues. I am honored when a client tells me that our time together has helped them find that place of success, love or whatever they call their happiness.

I have written some blog posts on things I have learned about the search for happiness and they are listed below. Would you care to share some of the things that have led you to your happiness or the things that take you away from that place of fulfillment?

Past Posts on the topic of Happiness:

Successes, Happiness, and Contentment

Where Happiness Hides

Buying Happiness

Directions to Happiness

Finding Happiness

Happiness or Misery

How to Be Happy

Happy Enough to Make the Bed?

Should you be happy?

There are lots of posts on my blog and other blogs about unhappiness. It seems unhappiness is easier to find than happiness. One thing I am sure of is that things don’t equate with happiness. Things are symbols. The happiness comes from what the things mean to you.

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