I read a blog post by yet another person whose method of seeking to increase joy and positivity in the world is to shun anything – anyone – potentially negative. At least that was my perception and interpretation.

An argument was made for not getting emotionally engaged with the messy negativity of someone else’s grief at losing a loved one. Regardless of method or cause of passing, that person’s time or business on earth has been finished and the messy negativity of grieving the loved one’s passing is unnecessary and dishonoring to that person. It recommended to bypass grief and only do something that expresses joy and honor that the person’s spirit and energy has moved on.

There was no acknowledgement that grief and loss is not about the person who is gone, but about the pain of separation and lost relationship, unrealized and unmet expectations which will never come…