By David Joel Miller.
What does happy look like?
Happy is one of those things we talk about, we all say we want it, but when it comes down to the directions on getting from here to happy, we are all fuzzy on just how you get there.
Does this look like happy?
It may well that you can’t get there from here. Maybe you need to first go somewhere else, like contentment and then you turn right or is it left? And yes happy is right around the corner from contentment.
Happy may well be the last street after acceptance and serenity.
Since happy is so hard to describe we might do better when we see it.
Here are a few photos that could start you on the road to becoming an expert on happy. Knowing what to look for couldn’t hurt. We all used to know what happy looked like once, even if we never actually felt that way.
Happy Cat. Maybe, this is a Zen master cat and has mastered no attachment, or maybe this cat just doesn’t care.
Not sure how we would know if a cat were happy. Maybe by the purring?
I asked my cat but she is ignoring me.
Happy child, yes that looks like happy.
There we have it. A Happy we can tell when we see it.
Children don’t try to hide happy the way some adults do. They haven’t forgotten what happy feels like yet.
Some people say they never feel happy.
Never feeling happy, that is some form of depression, somewhere between Persistent Depressive Disorder (The old dysthymia) and Major Depressive Disorder. It is the result of something that actually happened then that could be a stress issue, as in Adjustment Disorder with Depressed Mood.
We, professionals, have all sorts of descriptions for unhappy but nowhere, that I see, are their clinical descriptors for “too happy.”
We will just have to take the risk and try one more picture. Maybe that will help us recognize happy the next time it crops up.
There do you have it? Can you recognize happy the next time it greets you?
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