By David Joel Miller, MS, Licensed Therapist & Licensed Counselor.
Spring cleaning for your new life.
The winter season is coming to a close. Spring is approaching. Time for spring cleaning and getting the house and you spruced up for a new year. People often get makeovers for their looks and their clothing, sometimes for their places, but have you considered getting a makeover for your life?
Here are some things you may want to consider changing to create a new, clean and effective new you.
1. Clean out the toxic habits.
Take an inventory of your life. Are there habits that became a part of your life that are toxic? Do you smoke, drink to excess or do drugs? Would now be a good time to get rid of that habit before it becomes an addiction?
It is not just chemicals, drugs and alcohol, which may need ejecting from your life. Behaviors can be just as addicting, mentally and physically, as drugs. What behaviors have taken over your life uninvited?
Do you waste time complaining or gossiping, dwelling on personalities as some like to call it? Would now be a good time to resolve to work on issues rather than talk about people? Are there other habits that are harmful to your happy, productive life?
Have you settled for passive behaviors, watching sports instead of playing them? Are their activities that have become huge time wasters and which add nothing of values to your life? Get rid of the things that waste your time and spend that time on becoming a better happier you.
2. Update your friend’s list.
Do you have people in your life who are on the friend’s list, the electronic friends or associates you hang out with, that are bad for your emotional health? Consider if there are people you have been calling friends that are anything but a friend.
Is it time to work on making some new friends? Get yourself out there, say hi, put your hand out and start making new friends. You will begin to copy the people you hang out with. Show me your friends and this will tell us who you are. Maybe your friends need an upgrade?
3. Shop for some new options – set new goals.
Has your life drifted into a rut? Are you aimlessly drifting along in life? It may be time to set new goals, rearrange your priorities and head off in a new direction.
Were there things that you said you will do someday? Have you done them? Do not wait to create your “bucket list” until you are too old and weak to carry a bucket. If you knew time was running out, what would you want to do? Why not start doing those someday thinks today?
4. Refurbish your career.
Do you have a job or do you have a career? Work on creating a job that you enjoy going to. Make it into a career. Find something to do that you feel good about and you will find work is less of a chore and more of a life mission. Why do unpleasant work when you can do something you love all day and get paid for it?
Has your career gotten shabby and worn? Does it fit who you have become? Is it time to start shopping for ways to rework that career? Get more training, look for more opportunities in the place you work or possibly launch out in a whole new direction.
In your lifetime you probably will need to move a bunch of times and if you are like most people you will end up changing jobs many times in your life. Start planning where you want to land when you leave where you are.
5. Get a new look.
Does your wardrobe need updating? Maybe just some outfits that are less shabby and worn? If you remember when you got that article of clothing, the decade, rather than where, it may be time for a change.
6. Fix up your nest.
You spend a lot of time where you live. Make it as comfy and cozy as possible. Most people have accumulated more stuff than they can use. Do you live in the land of clutter? Now is the time to part with the out of date, the things that you keep because you have them not because you want them.
Hang some new pictures, rearrange a few things. What in your living area says “I live here?”
7. Try on some new hobbies.
Is there something you always wanted to try? Is now the time to try out that activity? Take up a new skill. Learn to cook. Find a hobby or craft that suits your lifestyle.
8. Visit some new places.
Get out of the old rut. See some new places, travel a little. Even something as simple as taking a different route to work can spark some new ideas and new experiences.
If a tourist came to your hometown where would you take them? Have you taken yourself there? What wonders await you just around the bend? Seeing things in person is a far different experience than looking at the pictures on the internet. Ask yourself what you would like to see or experience first person.
Attend some festivals. Enjoy the pageantry. There are annual events all around you. Historical reenactments abound.
9. Make some repairs to your relationship.
Does your relationship need some work? Has it become shabby and run down? Do some things to repair the cracks that have developed between you and your partner. Good relationships require maintenance. The best relationships are between people who, once they notice the relationship has some damage, drop their pride and work on making the repairs.
What areas of your life need remodeling or repair? Are you ready to start on some personal improvement?
Staying connected with David Joel Miller
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