By David Joel Miller
What you tell yourself can create the things you say.
The more often you tell yourself something the more likely it is to come true. For good or bad what we tell ourselves tends to come true.
Self-talk statements are plans, not facts.
Winners tell themselves that they will win. Once you stop believing in your ability to succeed you begin to fail.
Losers tell themselves they can’t and they are almost universally right.
Your beliefs matter.
Does that mean that we all know deep down how things will turn out, that some people just have it and others do not? Not by any means. If successful people begin to doubt themselves their performance will decline. If you begin to believe that you can do something you will improve.
Something does not have to be true now for you to create it happening in the future. If you believe something so strongly that you see it as already having happened then the chances that it will occur greatly increase.
This does not mean that just believing in something will be enough to make it happen. The great fallacy of manifesting things is to believe that if you imagine something hard enough, say winning the lottery, it will happen.
What is needed to make these things you visualize materialize is to begin to take action and do the work to get you there. Instead of trying to create a sudden jump to wealth imagine yourself getting a better job. Do that work and your financial situation may improve.
Next, see yourself as being a good money manager and you will find you can get more mileage out of the money you have.
Most of your self-talk may be lies.
Most people spend the majority of their time telling themselves why they will fail. Tell yourself you do not deserve something, that you will “NEVER” be able to do something, and you will ensure your defeat.
How long have you been telling yourself these lies?
Say this often enough and you will not be able to.
I will never
The result is you stop trying and that ensures that you will never reach this goal.
I need to
Do you really need to do a particular thing before something else can happen? If so start on that necessary project now. If not, stop putting off your dreams until someday.
If only they would
Placing the responsibility and the blame on someone else may feel like you can escape that responsibility but we find that those who look at themselves and do the work improve and those that believe their successes are the result of luck or are due to others actions, never feel good about the results even when they do win.
It is hopeless
Say this often enough and you will lose all hope.
What kind of self-talk are you using? Do you encourage yourself or put you down. What you tell yourself is what you are creating for tomorrow.
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