By David Joel Miller.
Reasons you may want to consult a counselor.
Many people avoid going to see a professional counselor until their life falls apart.
There’s been a growing acceptance of preventative medicine for physical health issues. Still, some people believe that going to see the doctor or the therapist is a sign of weakness.
An increasing number companies provide E.A.P.’s (employee assistance programs) for their employees. There are plenty of good reasons to see a counselor before your problems become severe.
Avoiding counseling appears to me like walking around town with a broken leg. See the doctor, and that leg might heal, keep walking on that broken leg you may do permanent damage to it.
1. There are things you can’t talk to your family and friends about.
Your family and friends may be sympathetic but if you keep talking to them repeatedly about the same problems you can burn them out. People close to you may judge you for what you think or how you feel. A professional counselor can listen to you nonjudgmentally.
2. You don’t know what you don’t know.
Professional counselors can provide you with the information you may need. They talk to many people with similar problems. They may be able to fill in gaps in what you know and refer you to resources where you can find answers to your questions.
3. They can mentor you on life skills.
If you didn’t have a knowledgeable adult or older sibling in your life, a counselor could fill that need. Even when you have great role models, you may not have learned every lesson. Counselors can help you with skills to reduce or manage your anger. They can help you cope with your anxiety. If there are feelings you find it difficult to manage, a good therapist can help you learn the needed skills.
4. When you get counseling, they can tell you the truth.
The smartest people sometimes get extraordinarily dumb ideas. Top executives need to beware of yes-men and yes-women. The people close to you may not want to hurt you or offend you by telling you the truth. A professional counselor can help you do something called reality testing. They can help you sort out your thoughts and separate the good ideas from the fanciful ones.
5. Prevention is cheaper and faster than cure.
Dealing with emotional problems in the early stage can prevent them becoming huge problems.
6. Counselors can give you another perspective.
Successful athletes have coaches. You can’t see your own swing. A good counselor can give you a fresh perspective on the challenges you face.
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