By David Joel Miller, MS, Licensed Therapist & Licensed Counselor.
Ever wondered how some people can be so disgustingly happy?
Some people have a knack for being happy, come what may.
Life has its problems, but people who study happiness and become happiness experts discover some little secrets which they practice every day. Happiness experts will find the happiness even throughout life’s difficulties.
Here are some tips for increasing the happiness in your life
Like who you are.
Incurably happy people have come to accept themselves just the way they are. They work on improving themselves rather than focusing on any imperfections. The more you come to know yourself and accept yourself the happier you will be. Don’t try to live your life being someone else’s ideal person.
Do what you like.
Whether it’s a job or a hobby, spend your time on things you like. Pursue a career because it interests you. If you do what you like you will like what you do. People who are happy on their job, are frequently more successful. People hate their job rarely succeed.
Don’t judge others.
Avoid judging others. Be less judgmental, with yourself also. Other people won’t live up to your expectations. Humans are full of imperfections, just like you. The more severely you judge others, the more severely you will judge yourself. Harsh self-judgments take all the joy out of life. Judge others and yourself by his what you do, not who you are.
Honest people don’t have to worry about being caught in a lie. Especially be honest with yourself. Being dishonest with yourself will make you happier. When you’re honest with yourself you will accept the things, you cannot change, and you will focus on improving the things that are within your power.
Be nice to others and to yourself. Being nice costs you little or nothing. Being miserable towards others makes you a miserable person. Don’t abuse yourself. The way you treat others becomes the model for the way you treat yourself. Be careful not to teach others to mistreat you.
The more you cooperate with others, the less conflict you will have in your life. Happy people live lives free of unnecessary conflicts. The process of reaching goals is sometimes more important than the result. Strive each day to make the activities you do with others happy and cooperative.
There may be times in life when you can win a contest by cheating. If you must cheat to win, you will not feel very good about yourself. When you compete fairly, you can feel good about yourself and feeling good about yourself should make you happy.
Laugh a lot.
Learn to laugh. Laugh at the funny things in life and especially learn to laugh at yourself. Do not take yourself too seriously. Laughter makes you happy.
Know who you are.
Having a clear understanding of who you are and who you are striving to become keeps you from being dependent on other people’s opinion of you. Happy people have a good sense of self.
Focus on the big stuff.
If you want to be happy, take inventory of your life and decide what’s important. Focus your time and your efforts on those things that matter most to you. Don’t waste your life on trivial things that don’t matter.
Hang out with happy people.
Remember the old saying misery loves company? You hang out with unhappy people tend to absorb that unhappiness. Spend as much time as possible with happy people. Whenever possible spread happiness as you go. The more happiness you give away, the more you will have.
Be spontaneous, go with the flow.
Happy people learn to adjust to things as they are. Don’t resist change. Learn to master change by riding the ups and downs. Become a life surfer.
The curious find pleasure in discovering something new. Strive to learn one new thing each day.
Be interested in others. Listen to them.
People who care about others increase the happiness in their life. More time you spend being interested in others the less time you will stay focused on your own problems.
Appreciate what you have.
One happiness secret is to enjoy what you do have. The more you focus on the gap between what you have and what you want the larger that gap will seem. In your focus on achievement don’t lose the enjoyment of what you already have. For maximum happiness, be satisfied with what you have while you work towards the future.
Stop comparing yourself.
You are not someone else. Others may look happy on the outside, but you have no idea what their pain or struggles may be. There will always be someone with more than you. Continually comparing yourself to others diminishes who you are. Accept yourself as you are while working to make you the best you possible.
Staying connected with David Joel Miller
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Bumps on the Road of Life. Whether you struggle with anxiety, depression, low motivation, or addiction, you can recover. Bumps on the Road of Life is the story of how people get off track and how to get your life out of the ditch.
Casino Robbery is a novel about a man with PTSD who must cope with his symptoms to solve a mystery and create a new life.
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