Ways to be more likeable

By David Joel Miller

Ways to be better liked

Friends

Friends
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Some people are just easier to like than others. No, likeability is not genetic. Likeable people have certain skills that they excel at. Even if you did not pick these skills up unconsciously you can learn them. Want to be one of those very likeable people? Here are some skills you can practice to improve your likability index.

  1. Look for the bright spot in everything

Likeable people are positive. The see good in every situation. People who only see the problems and the difficulty are downers. To be likeable you need to pull others up not push them down.

Look at every situation and ask yourself “what is the good I can find in this situation?” Practice finding the good everywhere you go and people will invite you to go with them.

  1. Look for the good in people

Popular people have positive attitudes about those around them. They encourage others to be the best they can be rather than pulling them down. To improve your likability look for the good in others. What you look for you will find. People like to be around others who like them.

Good leaders look for the skills in people and “encourage their strengths.” Encourage the best in others and you may become their best friend.

  1. Be curious about others

To become more likable think less about yourself and more about others. Cultivate a curiosity about others. What do they enjoy? Where do they like to go? Learn about their hobbies and their interests. You may find that something they care about interests you also. The best way to develop more friendships is to find interests you have in common. Shared activities build strong friendships

  1. Don’t look for someone to blame

Avoid blame when things go wrong. Take responsibility for your errors and try to remedy the situation. If things go wrong look for alternative solutions not someone to blame. People who are willing to help when things are off kilter are more likable. Those who are always looking for someone to blame drive others away.

  1. Practice patience

Impatient people are annoying. Patience people give others time to explain what they means. Patient people are just easier to be around. Let everyone talk at their comfortable pace. Give others the time they need to learn a new skill.

  1. Walk in their shoes

Their Shoes

Their Shoes
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Think about what the other person is going through. Why do they see things the way they do? There are often two, or more, ways to see things. Look at it from the other person’s perspective rather than asking why they don’t think and do things the way you do.

  1. Let people see the real you – do not be fake

Trying to be something you are not is not the route to popularity. Be the real you. Those who like you will be attracted to you. People who do not are just not the ones you need to attract.

  1. Improve yourself – Be the kind of person you would like to be around

Work on being the best you possible. Do not work on making others like you. Work on being the best possible person you can be and those who matter will want to hang out with you.

Look for the characteristic that you find admirable in others. Develop those characteristics in yourself. Become your own best friend and others will want you for a friend.

  1. Have a clear moral compass.

Likeable people have a clear understanding of right and wrong. They do not need others to agree with them to feel confident in their beliefs. Do not change your beliefs to please those you are around. Learn from all the people you meet but be a consistent you.

  10. Be willing to try something new

Popular people are not set in their ways. They are willing to try new things and explore new ideas. This does not mean you should do things that you feel are wrong only because others are. But do not close your mind just because the situation or the person is different from what you expected.

  11. Say what you mean in a clear way

Do not be wishy-washy. Likeable people are able to communicate well. They know what they want to say and they say it. Avoid “weasel words” and take a position. Do not keep others guessing about your true intentions.

  12. Care about others

Likeable people are not all about themselves. They care about others. Develop your caring skill and you will encourage others to care about you. If everything you do is about you, then you will be cultivating friends who are selfish and only care about themselves.

Practice these methods and develop the skills you need to become a more likable person, likable to yourself and likable to others.

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Relationship mistakes to avoid

By David Joel Miller

How many of these relationship mistakes do you make?

  1. Thinking that relationships should be easy

Relationship Mistakes

Relationship Mistakes
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Life is difficult some times, so are relationships. If there are tough times in your relationship that does not mean that this is a bad relationship. Any relationship you will ever be in will have rough patches.

Some people think that a great relationship should always be good. When the bad times come they mistakenly believe this means the relationship was never good. Having struggles does not mean the relationship is doomed.

  1. Believing the other person can make you happy

Two unhappy people does not make for a happy relationship. Learn to be happy by yourself and then in a relationship you can have even better times. Thinking that it is your partner’s job to make you happy is a recipe for disaster.

Occasionally someone can help you feel happy for the short run but in the life long time frame you need to work on your happiness and your partner needs to work on there’s. Together two happy people can be even better.

  1. One mistake and the relationship is over

No one will ever be perfect. If you jettison your partner over a single mistake you will run through a lot of partners. Some “mistakes” may be on your no-way list. Make these clear to your partner early on. But if your partner turns out to not be perfect at everything on your wish list, this means that they are human, not that the relationship is hopeless.

  1. You have to trust completely

There are levels of trust. Set your expectations too high and you will set yourself up to feel like you can’t trust your partner. You should be able to trust that your partner cares and that they will make a good effort at the relationship but if they forget an appointment or they do not remember something important to you this does not mean you can’t trust them.

If you have trust issues look at yourself and decide if you would trust you. Many people find they have set the standard for others above what they expect from themselves. Set your expectations for other humans too high and you are engineering failure.

  1. You need to tell your partner everything

Too much honesty can be a relationship wrecker. You do not need to tell your partner all the things they do wrong. (See the post – Just being honest – 5 times telling the truth is a bad thing .)

There are some things you partner can bear to hear. If you run to them with every hurt and disappointment you may overload them. If you have personal issues you need to work on consider seeing a therapist. Your partner is too involved in your life to be able to listen to all your past issues.

  1. Your partner should always be there for you

Life is compromises. We expect our partners to be there for us during the big things but remember that your partner needs to balance the other parts of their life. Most partners come with families, friends and hopefully jobs. While you should be your partners top priority that does not mean that they can drop everything and be at your beck and call.

People who expect too much togetherness set the relationship up for failure.

  1. Trying to fit your partner in between other things

Just like you can’t expect your partner to always be there, relationship do not work if that partner is never there for you. Make sure you are each other’s top priority. Family and friends have their own lives. Jobs will come and go. Eventually the children grow up and start their own lives. A life partner should be there the whole way.

Make sure the two of you carve out time for the couple relationship.

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Unpleasant truths you need to face.

By David Joel Miller

Life principles you need to accept.

Truths you need to face

Truths you need to face
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Do you spend a lot of your time and energy worrying about what others will think of you? Low self-esteem? Do you beat yourself up because you made mistakes and think everyone knows about it? Here are some huge life principles you may need to consider when evaluating your life.

  1. A Hundred years from now no one will remember this.

It is easy to think that “Everyone” knows what you have done and not done. Find yourself thinking badly about yourself? Consider that in a hundred years from now no one will know about your mistakes. There is, in fact, a low probability that anyone will know you ever lived.

Truth is that people two blocks from your house right now may not know anything about you. Very few of us are just that important. Stop worrying about what others think about you and focus on doing the things you think you should be doing.

  1. None of this really matters.

Most of what we do is forgotten by the end of the day. Look in your history books. Those wars and conflicts – the people who fought in these wars are mostly forgotten. People died in labor strikes. A few of us remember, but once you are gone can you really convince yourself that what you bought and what you own will make any difference.

Enjoy it while you can, but as far as I can tell, you can’t take it with you and even the presidents get forgotten.  Be the kind of person you would like to be eventually. Quick can you tell me what President Tyler stood for?

  1. No one gets out of here alive

eventually we all die. The most you get is a line on the tombstone and maybe an obituary in a paper. A hundred years later even your descendants won’t know all that much about you. Live the best you can and let it go.

  1. Things look different depending on where you are standing

Most of what we know or think we know is the result of where we were born and grew up. If you had lived somewhere else your life would have been different. Stop being so sure that things are the way you see them and accept that others are standing in another spot.

What if there was something going on behind that tree that you can’t see?

Most of what we take for truth and surety is only our point of view.

  1. It is always today

You can’t change what you did yesterday and you can’t do anything tomorrow. It is always the same day – today. Live in today and stop looking over your shoulder. Do not leave things you should do for tomorrow. Do these things today.

  1. Average gets lost in the crowd

What to stand out? Want people to think highly of you? Want more self-esteem? Do more stuff. Take chances. Those who are afraid to be noticed do not get noticed.

Want to be exceptional? Do something others do not do every day.

  1. You can’t please everyone

No one can please everyone. Please one group or faction and you anger the others. Do what you feel you should be doing. Please yourself and stop being concerned about what others are thinking about you.

  1. The higher you are the more people throw things at you

Know who the president is? Do they say bad things about him? Did they do that to the president before him and the one before that? If you do something you will get criticized. The more you do the more you get criticized. Are you trying to tell me that people should not criticize you? What – you think you are more important than the president?

  1. If it isn’t scary it isn’t special

New things, especially the creative inventive things, always come with a large dose of risk. Want to be special, do special things.

10. You can’t win if you don’t play

Sitting out the game does not make you a winner. You have to get in there run, pass, catch, and then you have a shot at it. Playing it safe is another name for planning to lose. Life has no safe spots. Stop telling yourself to be careful and start telling yourself that you need to take more risks. Intelligent, thoughtful risks are fine, but everything, even the expected things, have risks.

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Hope- the missing Mental Health ingredient.

By David Joel Miller

Without hope treatment for mental illness is ineffective.

Hope

Hope

A large doses of hope may turn out to be the most effective treatment for mental illness. It is an ingredient that has been missing from treatment programs for far too long.

The conventional wisdom, when it comes to mental health, turns out to not be true.  For a long time there has been the belief that there are two kinds of people, the normal and the mentally ill. The result of this thinking error was that we lost hope for those with a mental illness to recover.

Turns out that they is us. In their lifetime half of all Americans will have an episode of a mental illness that should be diagnosed and treated. No, just toughing it out and pretending you do not have a problem will not make it go away.

Mental Health is on a continuum. Some people’s experience of a mental illness will be more severe than others. People on this continuum can move to being more healthy or less mentally healthy. Just like physical health you may not be able to know who is going to get which disorder at which time but we know there are risk factors and ways to keep yourself more mentally healthy.

This misunderstanding, that people without a mental illness can get better or worse and so can those with a mental illness, has impeded out ability to help those experiencing an emotional problem.

Many of our mental health treatment systems are still stuck in that old way of thinking. If the mentally ill are different from the rest of us then they will always be ill and society needs to take care of them and run their lives. That approach is devoid of hope and disregards the role of the person with an illness in managing their symptoms and their life.

If we recognize that mental illness, like physical illness, can get better at times and worse at times, then this tells us that there is hope. Hope for recovery is fundamental to any rational approach to treating mental illness.

If those with a mental illness are not permanently stuck in a hopeless place then there are things that they can do to improve their mental health and wellness. This concept, that people with a challenge can live meaningful lives, that you can recover, is one of the basic tenants of 12 step programs. It seems that recovery works very well for alcoholism and addiction – why not for mental illness?

By recovery or Wellness and Recovery we do not necessarily mean a cure. Some conditions, once you have them, there will always be a risk of a relapse. Both Mental illness and Substance Use Disorders are conditions for which there is a high risk of relapse.

If there are things that increases the risk of relapse then there are certainly things that can reduce this risk. This means to me that recovery from mental illness is not something that the doctor or therapist does to the client, it is something we help the client learn to do for themselves.

Some of you are thinking, yah right! They need to see a doctor for medication. Yes this is true. They need the doctor’s expertise when it comes to medication. But those meds are worthless unless that person has the skills needed to take those meds as prescribed.

Every program I have ever worked at has talked about a subject called “medication compliance” as if getting people to take their meds was something we professionals should make people do. Truth is we get the best results, and so do the clients, when we empower clients to actively participate in this process.

This concept, that Hope is a necessary part of recovery, is not something original with me. The value of hope has ancient roots. When it comes to mental health it is concept that’s time has come.

W.R.A.P. – Wellness and Recovery Action Planning.

Recently I had the pleasure of attending a training on a program called “WRAP” which stands for Wellness and Recovery Action Planning.” This program was developed by and for mental health clients/consumers to use in planning to maintain their mental health and to have a plan for what to do if that mental health faced a challenge.

For more on this program see: https://copelandcenter.com/wellness-recovery-action-plan-wrap

Look also at http://www.mentalhealthrecovery.com/

Books about WRAP are available from: https://www.wrapandrecoverybooks.com/store/

As a result of attending this training I am now a certified W.R.A.P.  Facilitator. If you want to know more about that contact me or checkout the links above.

One of the important parts of this training was the discussion of 5 “Key Concepts” that are the foundation of the W.R.A.P. program.

One of those Key concepts? You guessed it. – HOPE.

How do all of you feel about this radical concept – Hope? Do you have some? Do any of you have stories about hope and recovery you would be able to share with the other blog readers?

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Times you need to change

By David Joel Miller

10 Warning signs that it is time to change your life

Need to Change

Need to Change
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Dedication and perseverance are important characteristics. Plenty has been written about the need to persevere when times get hard. It is equally important to know when there are things in your life that are holding you back and when it is time to stop doing things that are impeding your progress. Here are some warning signs that things in your life need changing.

  1. You spend all your time looking back at the past.

Your past may have made you who you are but it does not need to define your future. If you spend more time looking back at the things in your past than looking forward to the future you are headed in the wrong direction.

Periodically you need to take another look at the past. What mistakes have you made and what can you learn from those mistakes. Keep these looks back as brief as possible. Develop a pan to move forward and get started. The sooner the better.

  1. You think that your happiness lies in the future.

Do not wait for something or someone to begin being happy. Happiness occurs in the present. If you are not happy in the journey you will arrive at the future with nothing but regrets. Any unhappy now creates an unhappy future even if you reach the destination you are working towards.

Enjoy the trip for its own Sake and the result will take care of its self.

  1. You are full of anger

Anger is a poison that destroys you from the inside out. Change what you can. Accept what you can’t and clear out those angry feelings as soon as possible. The heat of anger can burn you.

If you are full of anger, you need to change you. Demanding that someone or something else change will keep your stuck. Blame others and you avoid the only real solution, changing you.

  1. You can’t remember the last time you were happy – life is no fun

If nothing makes you happy, if life is just no fun anymore, you need to change something. This may be a disease called Major Depressive Disorder. That disease needs professional treatment.

But if the case of your life of “no fun” is you, learn to lighten up. Let yourself have fun. Life was not designed to be all pain and drudgery. You have to go through some things but do not volunteer to be the victim. Work on creating the best possible situation in the place you find yourself.

Look for ways to make your life more fun. The little moments of joy add up to a happy life.

  1. You have to hide your real self from others.

If you are hiding who you are, particularly if you do this because you need others to like you, this is a bad sign. If you are not who you want to be, work on changing that. If the problem is that others will never approve of you, then it is time to change friends, change jobs or change any other situations that is keeping you from being your fully authentic self.

  1. You feel you need to change others

Trying to change others is a difficult proposition. You can create the right conditions to encourage others to grow but if you start to feel that your prime objective is to change others, take another look at yourself. Learn to accept others as they are or get as many of these people out of your life as you can and do it sooner not later.

Consistently feeling you need to change others in your life should tell you that you are living a conflicted life. Accept others or change your situation.

  1. You protect others from themselves and the consequences of their actions

If you are trying to protect others from themselves you are living someone else’s life. You need to stop doing that. Let others bear the consequences to their actions. Being over involved in others lives is called codependency and this is a second-hand life. Let others solve their problems and you solve yours.

  1. Nothing interests you any more

Loss of pleasure, not being able to enjoy things you used to enjoy is a symptom of the depressive disorders. If nothing is fun anymore you need to change that.

Look at the things you used to like to do. Have you stopped enjoying them? Why? Is it you being the kind of person you would like or is it the people you are around?

Look for new interests, try to put the fun back in your life. Be open to new activities and new hobbies. Go place you have not been. Take a new route to work. Eat something new. Meet new friends.

If life is boring you need to make some changes.

  1. You live in constant emotional pain.

Pain circuits, especially the emotional ones, were not designed for constant pain. if you are never out of pain look for new positive solutions. Find new ways of looking at things. Let go of anything causing you pain.

Learn to be mindful and enjoy the positive things in your life. A good, mental attitude and learning to live mindfully and in the moment can reduce both physical and emotional pain.

10. You are settling for less of a life than you could have.

If you are settling for less of a life than you could have – why? Look for ways to improve your situation. Design a new happy life and move towards that joy filled life. Life can get better if you just get willing to move out of the place where you are stuck and start living again.

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Happy life skills.

By David Joel Miller

Want a happier life? Learn these skills.

A happy life does not just happen by chance. Happiness is not a commodity that can

Happy child

Happy child
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be bought with large quantities of money. Having good skills to manage your money can make life less stressful. Having good happy life skills can increase the level of happiness in any life. Here are some happy life skills you may need to practice until they become automatic parts of your life.

  1. Treasure life’s imperfections

Some scratches, dents and dings do not render a life worthless, defective or ruined. Those imperfections, far from being flaws, are the things that make your life unique. Treasure your life’s imperfections. Those trials have made you who you are.

Accept that sometimes things happen that are not in the plan, experiences you would have preferred to avoid, but continue on your life journey, lessons learned. You are in the process of becoming a valuable antique.

  1. End things that are over

Cluttering up your life with things that no longer meet your needs takes up room that is needed for the new things in life

If your job has become boring or stressful now is the time to look for another. Do you have habits that served you well in your teen or college days? Are some of these habits getting in the way of living a happy adult life? Weed them out.

Are their friends that are harmful? Relationships that are toxic? It may be time to move on and make new friendships.

Do you have habits you have outgrown? Time to declutter your life and make room for new experiences.

  1. Don’t keep fixing things that are beyond repair.

It is common for people, especially people in early recovery to keep fixing a car when it would be far cheaper to get rid of it and replace it with a new ride. Learn what can be fixed economically and what needs to be replaced. Also learn what you or a friend can fix and when it will be cheaper in the long run to get the repairs done by a professional.

  1. Stop trying to control the uncontrollable.

Most of the things in our lives are out of our control. We can prepare ourselves, we can buy insurance or try to reduce risk, but in the end most things happen whether we try to control them or not.

The majority of the things people worry about, 75% by one estimate, never happen. Spend your time, money and effort working to improve things that have a high chance of success.

Worrying that a family member will get sick will not keep them healthy. Getting your children vaccinated, living a healthy lifestyle and exercise, those will improve your odds.

For maximum happiness, restrict your worrying to only a few high probability events. Better yet, skip the worry and just do the things you need to do to maximize your chances of success when rough times come along.

  1. Admit your faults and mistakes

Hiding your mistakes takes a lot of effort. Happy people are able to admit when they are wrong. Recognized your error and move on. Do not waste time on making excuses. It does not matter who else contributed to your mistake.

Learn from the things at which you are less than perfect. Improve your game. If you miss the shot or the deadline, accept the responsibility. In the long run you will have less to worry about and will be happier.

  1. Do not volunteer to be the victim – not everything is your fault

Do not accept the blame for things that are not your fault. Do not apologize for what others do. Don’t keep putting yourself in situations where you try to rescue others. Trying to control the uncontrollable sets you up to live the unhappy victim life.

  1. Stretch your comfort zone

Avoiding risks does not keep you safe. It keeps you living in a very small place worrying about what might happen. Stretch that comfort zone. You do not necessarily need to demolish it and move to the middle of a war zone. What you should be doing is stretching it out a little each day of your life.

Happy people are able to take some risks, manageable risks, and they enjoy new experiences.

  1. Like yourself – do not call yourself names

Think well of yourself. Do not call yourself names or put yourself down. There is no evidence that calling yourself stupid will make you smarter. What it can do is make you feel bad about yourself. Happy people like themselves and their life regardless of the situation they may be in right now.

Parents who only see the flaws in their children raise kids who do not believe they can do very much. Use positive affirmations, tell yourself that you can. If you did not get positive strokes growing up, learn to give them to yourself as an adult. The result will be that you will accomplish more and be happier along the way.

  1. Things take the time they take

Cut yourself some slack. Do not tell yourself that you should have more or be more at this point in your life. Some things take longer than others. Plenty of very successful people did not find their niche in life until they are older.

I have seen couples meet and develop wonderful relationships in their retirement years. It is never too late to create the happy life you want. Some doors may close but others open if you watch for them.

10. Watch where you are going – plan the future and forget the past

Happy people do not try to drive looking over their shoulder at where they have been. Periodically you may need to look back just to see how far you have really come. Climbing a steep trail can feel like you are getting nowhere but a glance over your shoulder will show you what you left behind.

If you have wreckage in your past, work on cleaning it up and then get moving again. Do not continue to dwell in the land of the past.

11. Do not push yourself till you drop

Hard work is necessary to accomplish things in life, too much hard work is more like self-abuse. Happy people learn that you can’t give at your peak if you do not replenish what you have. Happy people take time out for rest and relaxation. Life needs to be fun, not an incredible grind that you endure until you reach the end of your life all used up.

Learn to practice good self-care if you want to maximize your happiness.

12. Believe in yourself.

If you believe in yourself you will get more done. People who think they can’t won’t. If you believe you can and that you are worth it you will go a lot farther in life and you will be happier along the journey.

Practice these happy life skills each day and watch your life improve.

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Today is World Mental Health Day

By David Joel Miller

Raising awareness of mental health issues.

Today is the official World Mental Health Day. Each year on October tenth a day is set aside to remind people about the importance of good Mental Health and Mental Wellness. World Mental Health Day is an initiative of the World Federation of Mental Health and is supported by WHO (World Health Organization.)

The theme for 2014 is “Living with schizophrenia”. Last year’s theme, 2013, was Mental Health and Older Adults.

In North America Mental illness is the largest single health issue. Days of work lost and impairment in functioning as a result of mental illnesses exceeds the disability burden of both cardiovascular disease and cancer (WHO.)

Depression is the largest single cause of disability. The good news is that today the emphasis in the treatment of mental illness is on wellness and recovery. Many people who have had episodes of serious mental illnesses have gone on to have happy and productive lives.

Consider today how your life or the life of someone you know has been affected by a mental illness. What would it mean to you if you or someone close to you could recover from that condition? No one should have to face a mental illness alone. There is help available in many places. We hope that this day, World Mental Health Day will focus awareness on the need to do more to help those who are currently experiencing a mental illness.

For more about David Joel Miller and my work in the areas of mental health, substance abuse and Co-occurring disorders see the about the author page. For information about my other writing work beyond this blog check out my Google+ page or the Facebook author’s page, up under David Joel Miller. Posts to the “books, trainings and classes” category will tell you about those activities. If you are in the Fresno California area, information about my private practice is at counselorfresno.com. A list of books I have read and can recommend is over at Recommended Books.

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